Interviewing Jon Pressick – Sex in Words Sex-related media mogul. Writer, editor of the Best Sex Writing series from Cleis Press, co-host and producer of Sex City Radio, event organizer, workshop facilitator, (very occasional) burlesque performer and general sexual gadabout. Winner of the 2010 TNT Favourite Adult Journalist Award and one of Broken Pencil’s “50 People and Places We Love.”
What’s the importance of having chosen to become a writer of eroticism and sexuality? What have you been learning ever since?
This may sound silly, but becoming a writer of erotica and sex found me. I was sexual and interested in sex from an early age and my interest in writing began early as well. I didn’t marry the two topics until I was an adult, but ever since I decided to focus exclusively on sex writing, I have been hooked. All along the way I have been learning things—about people, about sex, about culture and society…and about myself.
One of the topics that you discuss in your blog is about sexual violence. How do you look at this problem and what is the importance to stop this from happening in a couple’s life?
I really wonder if there are any two more intimate moments between people beyond sex and violence. I’ve experienced both, with too much violence than I care to remember. Melding those two intimacies…those primal acts…has devastating effects. Bringing and raising awareness to this issue—one that predominantly affects women—is key to moving forward sexual positivity.
You’ve been added to a book of the best sex writing. In your words, what have your work contributed towards a better sexual writing, a better sexual life for women, pornography and the readers’ understanding?
In the most base sense, I hope my writing is good reading. I hope people engage with those I write about and those topics I write about. Has my work contributed to a better situation for women and porn? Or for an understanding of sex? That really isn’t for me to say. I’ve received compliments and praise from time to time, but more important to me is when someone says my work has made a difference.
You’ve referred in your interview to the blog “mylittlevixen” that your work is mostly focused on the gay community. What were your motivations that led you to focusing on gay issues and what’s your opinion (and your resolution) about their problems and their fight for their rights?
I focused my writing on the queer community in my early to mid-twenties because that was the experience I was living. I am a bisexual man and I was immersed in the queer community. I am glad much has changed since then, I am glad queer people are being recognized for what they are: people. There is still much to be done, all over the world. Even in progressive places like Canada. Changing a heteronormative world takes time.
You’ve said that your motivation to create this blog goes through biology, psychology, emotions, passions and sex. In what way have these themes contributed to women’s best sexual life?
My work isn’t directly focused on women—it is for everyone. Really, I’ve done more work directly aimed at men and the conflicting and challenging messages men are taught about sex and sexuality. However, we can all learn from each other. All of those elements are intrinsic in our sex lives and should be focused on both individually and collectively.
What seduces you most about alternative sexual and erotic writing for women?
Almost every part of me is “off the beaten path”…and always has been. It seems only natural that I would gravitate toward sexual fantasies and thoughts that aren’t of the “norm”. I like exploring and testing limits. My own and others.
What do we have to start doing so we can kill the taboo that is openly speaking about sex? The fact that you’re working on a blog, have a radio show about this theme, has helped you passing that message?
To kill the taboo we have talk about sex in all spaces. Both sexual and non-sexual spaces. With children and seniors. In families and among friends. Sex became this terribly hidden thing in the past—let’s bring it back to its natural glory. Let’s discuss and learn about the experiences of trans people, people of all cultures, people who are difficulties with sex. We can learn from everyone.
As a journalist, do you believe in works like yours — with lots of investigation, etc –, about sex and so on, are essencial so that people start opening their minds a little bit more and will help fighting against the lack of sexual information around the whole world?
If I am anything, it is an observer. And one thing I have noticed is that sex has become more prominent in media. More stories, more articles. More blogs! Now, this isn’t to say the depictions are all good. That still needs to be worked on. We need better presentations of sex and more positive portrayals of those who are brave enough to openly discuss their sex and sexuality. But the more people who do, the more we’ll learn.
Thanks for your time, votes for a good work.
Project Genesis by Pleasure
Interview: Pedro Marques
Translation and Correction and: Mariana Dias