Q 1: You wrote the book Ecosexuality with Lindsay Hagamen. What took you to write side by side with Lindsay Hagamen and 30 other specialists and explore the themes of sex, ecology and social change?
A 1: In my view, ecology, sex, and love are interrelated. When we take care of our inner alchemy, we practice love for our own personal ecosystem, our bodymind. This care creates abundance of love in our lives, that we can then share with others, including humans, nature, animals. This creates a healthy ecology around us, that reverberates in our inner being and radiates outside. This radiation is conducive of a sense of connectedness with others, we can practice intimacy, sensuality, communication, trust. This can lead to happy and fulfilled personal lives that also include the forms of sexual and amorous expression that we prefer and are open to consensually practice with others or with ourselves.
Q 2: How can this book and Ecosexuality be the turning point in sexuality, ecology and society?
What have you learnt while exploring these three themes just as with the gathering of the 30 specialists testimonies?
A 2: The book Ecosexuality was a very significant learning experience for me. I learned to put out the word of my intention to co-create the collection and trust that the perfect co-editor would appear. That’s how Lindsay Hagamen and I connected. Then I learned to value her contributions, perspectives, and stamina, and to really allow the process of co-creation and collaborative writing to unfold until we both felt completely satisfied. I also learned to appreciate contributions from others, to communicate with the group in an inclusive, encouraging manner, to keep the flame of hope alive, and to help along those who had a bit of trouble staying apace an in tune with the project. It was a great experience in really practicing #EcosexualLove. It involved the social skill of collaboration, the ecological skill of appreciating all elements in a system, and the sexual skill of perceiving the vital energy and imaginativeness that traversed all of us as we were re-inventing and expanding the concept of sex in a more ecological manner.
I do believe the ecosexual movement is very important. I practice #EcosexualLove and invite everyone to do so. I believe it’s important also to interconnect these three aspects of cultural discourse. Ecosexuality is one way to do it that coexists with many others. It’s important to think of love as an art that we can learn and practice in infinite ways with respect and consideration for others, including sexual ones. We can learn from nature, for example, from plants, who are very proud of their beautiful and perfumed genitals, flowers, and put them on display for everyone. And I hope we all evolve toward a world and humanity that is more amorous, and inclusive, and imaginative in the practices of love.
Q 3: You have worked plenty the subject of Ecosexuality. How is this way of living sexuality any different and how can it be fundamental and enhancing, to broaden horizons and deliver sexuality in a different and most positive perspective?
A 3: Ecosexuality helps people become more aware of the connection between the metabolism of our species, humans, and the metabolism of the Earth. Our species has become too disconnected from the metabolism of the Earth. Many of us live extremely artificial lives. But as beings who are alive we source our energy from the planet that we live on. We need to activate this connection more. This brings us closer to the metabolism of our own bodies, our personal ecosystems. It brings us closer to experiencing the pleasures that our bodies can be blessed with when we behave naturally and we lose the fear of being too sexual or too amorous or too intimate or too connected with others who are also consensual and aligned with this desire for abundance in the arts of love.
Q 4: You have penned a polyamory book and spoken twice on that subject, in 2007 and again in 2010. How did this research on non-monogamous and polyamory relations came about?
A 4: Understanding the nature of amorous inclusiveness helps to spread and expand the energy of love. This practice of moderating possessiveness and jealousy is also known as compersion, or the ability to find joy in our lovers’ pleasure even when we are not the source of it. On a global level, the practice of compersion helps people meet others as “metamours,” namely beings with whom we already always share a partner we love: The Earth. On a personal level, the practice of compersion is very valuable in the arts of love, because it makes the energy of love more abundant, and this abundance eventually benefits everyone.
Q 5: In which way has all your research work been important to the deepening, knowledge and respect of polyamory relations? How did it allow you to see and make others see relations in another way?
A 5: Compersion is the spirit of polyamory. Amorous inclusiveness and open relationships cannot function without the practice of compersion. Compersion helps the energy of love to expand. Love is the ecology of life. I felt it was important for me to study and research and teach this subject.
Q 6: You have equally written about Women and Bisexuality, BiTopia, and Bisexuality and Queer Theory. What led you to dedicate yourself to these studies? Taking in consideration Bisexuality as still embraced with prejudice and rejection, how should it be studied, discussed, mainly when related to subjects you have researched?
A 6: The practice of sexual fluidity, or bisexuality, enables people to make friends with desires and fantasies that are often hidden and buried in shame and fear. As they do this, people also get to know themselves much more completely and profoundly. People really get to love and embrace their whole person, their whole being, including masculine and feminine aspects that exist with everyone of us. When this happens fully, then it is possible to love a person regardless of their gender. This is a fully human and mature form of love that allows for, in the words of as avatar of bisexuality Fritz Klein, a much desirable “one hundred percent intimacy.”
Q 7: You have been and continue to be studying about Love. You are now working on Conversations with Gaia: The Alchemy of Ecosexual Love, as Ecosexuality still gets attention as a pioneering collection. How does Love inspire you, what can we learn and how can we evolve through love?
A 7: Love is the ecology of life. A planet where it is safe to love is a planet where it is safe to live. We have to be very careful in creating cultures where love is excessively restricted and even criminalized. The energy of love has power. When it is not loved, when it is not welcome, it flees. When it flees, the empty space attracts fear. Fear is bad for everyone because it produces hatred, violence, mistrust. We instead need to cultivate the energy of love. When love feels welcome, it becomes more abundant. Then everything becomes beautiful, inspiring, generous and exciting. Humanity is going thru very challenging times. Our relationship with our planet has been strained for a while. We have taken undue advantage of this valuable partner. This is a time when the energy of love is absolutely necessary to heal this relationship and turn it into a more sustainable and responsible one.
Q 8: How did your studies about love, your predisposition and openness to love, to ecology, to sexuality, to free and respectful relations, opened your heart and mind and gave you more knowledge and life as a researcher and woman?
A 8: They gave me the experience to speak more widely. They helped me to be part of the teams that spread and expand the energy of love. They gave me access to very vast and deep knowledge of the human heart and mind and spirit.
Q 9: You study different forms of sexuality, polyamory and queer relations. How have all the books you’ve written before Ecosexuality, the seminars, talks, conventions, and studies contributed to your learning and moved you toward becoming interested in Ecosexuality?
A 9: For me the first step was leaving monosexuality behind and embrace my own sexual fluidity and practice it with an open heart. The next step was to feel compersion for the pleasures that my lovers experienced when I was not willing or not around. It was a practice of inviting my lovers’ lovers to be included in my own constellation of expanded love. Ecosexuality was a natural step to follow, because the practice of #EcosexualLove is an invitation to include the whole planet in one’s amorous life, as the lover we all share.
Q 10: How should people approach these works and learn about sexuality in an open way?
A 10: People bring their own way to approach a reading project. Once a book is published, it has a life of its own, as it were. It travels in the world and in the minds of people who will seek in it responses to questions that are on their hearts. Many will interpret these books in way much more inspiring and exciting than I had in mind.
References: A Bibliography of Dr. Serena Anderlini’s Books
Conversations with Gaia: The Alchemy of Ecosexual Love. In progress. A course and a book on the practice and theory of Ecosexual Love and how that can heal the relationship we humans have with each other and the partner we all share: The Earth.
Ecosexuality: When Nature Inspires the Arts of Love. 2015. Co-edited with Lindsay Hagamen. The first collection of writings about ecosexual practices of love. Puerto Rico: 3WayKiss.
BiTopia: Selected Proceedings from BiReCon 2010. 2011. A collection of multidisciplinary research studies on bisexuality and bisexual cultures. Journal of Bisexuality: 11: 2-3. New York: Routledge. Guest Editor.
Bisexuality and Queer Theory: Intersections, Connections, and Challenges. 2010. A volume about what David Halperin calls “a crisis in sexual definition.” Edited with Jonathan Alexander. New York: Routledge.
Gaia and the New Politics of Love. 2009. A founding text in ecosexual theory, claiming love as the ecology of life and proposing a cultural interpretation of love as the art of embracing all of life as an equal partner. Berkeley, CA: North Atlantic Books. (Second edition by 3WayKiss: 2016.)
Eros: A Journey of Multiple Loves. 2006. A life-writing narrative, finalist at the 2007 Lambda Awards. New York: Routledge.
A Lake for the Heart/Il lago del cuore. 2005. A collection of lyrical poems by Luigi Anderlini, bilingual edition. Stony Brook, N.Y.: Gradiva. Translation and Introduction. Preface by Alberto Asor Rosa. Presented at the Italian Embassy, Washington, DC, on October 25.
Plural Loves: Designs for Bi and Poly Living. 2005. New York: Routledge. Also as The Journal of Bisexuality: 4: 4 (February). Guest Editor.
Women and Bisexuality: A Global Perspective. 2003. New York: Routledge. Also as The Journal of Bisexuality: 3: 1 (June). Guest Editor.
The ‘Weak’ Subject: On Modernity, Eros and Women’s Playwriting. 1998. New York: Associated University Presses, 1998. 352p.
Translated into Italian by Federica Zampini as Due in una: soggettività ed erotismo nel teatro femminile del novecento. Rome: ManifestoLibri, 2004.
Adriana Cavarero. In Spite of Plato: A Feminist Rereading of Ancient Philosophy. Cambridge, UK: Polity Press. Translated from Nonostante Platone. Rome: Editori Riuniti, 1990. 135p. In collaboration with Áine O’Healy.
Thanks for your time, and all the best wishes for your work.
Project Let’s Talk About Sexuality
Interview: Pedro Marques
Translation and Correction and: Joana Correia